To become a complete human, one must take ownership of his or her own existence. Epictetus once said, "It's not what happens to you but how you react to it that matters." Life is a forge. Ultimately, it is the responsibility of each individual to either be shaped into a useful instrument or melted over the coals. In "The Courage to Be Disliked," Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga expound an enlightening discourse that will prove to be very valuable to your direction in life. Link below.